Echte Mannen Real
Men dont do porn
Kwasizabantu brethren have been running the programme, Echte Mannen (under the
auspices of CFT) with great effect.
Their message is simple and clear: real men dont do porn. They have been contacted
by many young and old men (many Christians too) who are in despair about their addiction
to porn mostly Internet porn.
Lets have another
look at this ever increasing problem. Years ago we wrote the pamphlet called Caught in the Net (to have a look this
is the link: http://www.ksb.org.za/articles/caught_in_the_net.htm.
Technology has advanced dramatically since that article was written. What was just a phone
has become a computer with every device centralized on this little thing which can fit
into your pocket. Lets have a close look at how porn is just a few inches from your
eyes, most of the time.
Cellphones (or mobiles or handys as
Americans and Europeans call them) now connect you to porn
Whether you like it or
not, all modern cellphones (unless you can manage to find an old fashioned, as in 2 years
old) types, have the capability to connect you directly to the Internet. How has this
happened? The merging of technology, because of popular demand, has forced manufacturers
to add all the bells and whistles to every new cellphone. A fancy camera which
is 5 megapixels (and that increases every year) can take photos and videos; a miniSD card
(or whatever type it may be with lots of memory) can store huge amounts of MP3 music,
photos and videos; direct connection to the net; a GPS for directions; an FM
and AM radio; an alarm clock, Bluetooth to chat or flirt with someone close by; and much
more. This means that people need just one device
to carry around which is small and convenient enough to put on your belt or in your
handbag, or simply carry in your hand to show off like the billboards showing
pretty girls photographing themselves (the ultimate vanity).
The producers of
cellphones have successfully merged all these technologies into a single device because
that is what people want - convenience. Apples iphone has been a stunning success.
Take note that it is one big screen and that has set the trend. Cellphone sceens are
getting bigger and bigger and that is on purpose. Teens can watch videos on a screen that
is not the tiny screen of the prehistoric days (about 2 to 3 years ago) and they can also
go to porn sites. Parents take note of this. Virtually all new cellphones have this
ability. Youngsters can afford it because cellphone companies pour millions of rands into
marketing the latest brands and for just a small amount a month they get a free phone
which can do, well, everything.
Parents and older
people struggle with understanding these devices. For instance, I still struggle to do an
SMS because the gadget keeps on telling me what it thinks I mean and I have to reprimand
it and correct it again and again. But children and teens have an inbuilt ability to know
all the functions of the mobile within minutes. This inbuilt ability can be used for good
and evil. The same goes for adults who are more tech savvy and know how to get onto the
Net with their cellphones. Dont read the
following sentence if youre under 18. The sites they access include: sex with
animals, homosexual sex (sometimes called Shemale or Tranny), close-up pics of genitals,
all manner of perverted sex, etc, etc. Now, parents and adults, you can be sure that the
previous sentence was read by under 18 children. If some upright children didnt read
it, good for them, but most will be sorely tempted to click on I declare that I am
18 or over to get access to every type of filth possible.
And, just a quick word
about girls and women they are not exempt from sexual temptation on the Internet
except theirs is of a different kind. They are more likely to end up in a chat
room and have a fantasy relationship with a number of people. They might never
really know who the person on the other side really is, because they give themselves a
Cyber name. So a girl chatting to a cyber friend who claims to be Jenny in a
chat room who says she is 14 and loves hockey and swimming may actually be a 47 year old
man who is married with 3 adult children and chats to Jenny secretly, without the
knowledge of his wife. In another instance, a 65 year old married man may not know that
the Suzie on the Net, who claims to be 27 and is looking for a deeper
relationship because she doesnt get it from her husband, is actually Bethany
who is married for 55 years and is looking for some excitement in her life.
What can be done?
In the `olden
days, round about 2006, you could put a filter on the computer, check its
history, and have accountability programs to protect children or yourself from unwanted
images. Things have changed dramatically and we in the middle of a trend towards more of
what Ive written above. Some companies like Vodacom have a number (*111*123#) which
you can dial and, from then on, all porn images, will be blocked (well, not all, because
pornsters (pimps, actually) are always on the cutting edge of technology and develop new
ways for their merchandise to be found.) Most companies dont have these
blockers and computer savvy people can always find a way around a filter.
Isnt it time to make a pledge before God and
Our Christian brethren
in France recently had a CFT meeting and did just
this. Perhaps this was a revelation from God which needs to infiltrate Christians
internationally. Just as the organization, True
Love Waits calls upon teens to make a pledge of abstinence till marriage how about a
true pledge not to look at any porn, of any type, on cellphones, TV or any other means? A
deliberate vow before God (and before man, if necessary especially if youre
an addict) like Job (I made a vow not to look upon a maid/girl) and keeping in mind
what Jesus said: if any man looks lustfully upon a woman he has already committed
More practical action
Besides the suggestions
above there might be other means to sustain your vow. If you have been an addict you will
need an accountability partner or counselor, a person in whom you
can confide on a regular basis. Addiction often runs so deep that vows are not enough and
it needs regular prayer with your accountability partner. This would imply prayer of
thanks for victory and not just prayer for failures. You should expect victory and never
accept defeat. Christ came to set the captive free.
Rather seek what is good on the Web. Philippians
4:8 tells us that Whatever is true, whatever
is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable
think about such things. One way could be to look up the daily devotions
of Spurgeon and Meyer which are blessing to Gods children around the world. Then,
there are fantastic sites which study Gods Word. There are MP3 sermons like on this site and on the Kwasizabantu site there are hundreds of
sermons to download at broadband speed.
Finally, if the Bible
says whether you eat or drink do, or whatever
you do, do all to the glory of God (1Cor 10:31) then surely we can pray before
we use the cellphone or computer and use it to the glory of God.
K. Olsen (with
grateful assistance from M. Muller and others)