Genesis 24
1 And Abraham was old, and well stricken in age: and the Lord had blessed Abraham in all things. 2 And Abraham said unto his eldest servant of his house, that ruled over all that he had, Put, I pray thee, thy hand under my thigh: 3 And I will make thee swear by the Lord, the God of heaven, and the God of the earth, that thou shalt not take a wife unto my son of the daughters of the Canaanites, among whom I dwell: 4 But thou shalt go unto my country, and to my kindred, and take a wife unto my son Isaac.
5 And the servant said unto him, Peradventure the woman will not be willing to follow me unto this land: must I needs bring thy son again unto the land from whence thou camest?
6 And Abraham said unto him, Beware thou that thou bring not my son thither again. 7 The Lord God of heaven, which took me from my father’s house, and from the land of my kindred, and which spake unto me, and that sware unto me, saying, Unto thy seed will I give this land; he shall send his angel before thee, and thou shalt take a wife unto my son from thence. 8 And if the woman will not be willing to follow thee, then thou shalt be clear from this my oath: only bring not my son thither again. 9 And the servant put his hand under the thigh of Abraham his master, and sware to him concerning that matter.
10 And the servant took ten camels of the camels of his master, and departed; for all the goods of his master were in his hand: and he arose, and went to Mesopotamia, unto the city of Nahor. 11 And he made his camels to kneel down without the city by a well of water at the time of the evening, even the time that women go out to draw water.
12 And he said O Lord God of my master Abraham, I pray thee, send me good speed this day, and shew kindness unto my master Abraham. 13 Behold, I stand here by the well of water; and the daughters of the men of the city come out to draw water: 14 And let it come to pass, that the damsel to whom I shall say, Let down thy pitcher, I pray thee, that I may drink; and she shall say, Drink, and I will give thy camels drink also: let the same be she that thou hast appointed for thy servant Isaac; and thereby shall I know that thou hast shewed kindness unto my master.
Here we are reminded of Abraham and how he got a wife for his son.
Abraham is the father of believers. He has been given a high position in heaven, as we see when Lazarus died, that he was taken to the bosom of Abraham.
I want to be a child of Abraham, not of Lot.
People might say that young people cannot get married without visiting each other and knowing each other. However, you do not get to know each other by visiting etc. before marriage. Each one puts forth his or her best behaviour.
The Bible says we must flee youthful lusts, evne as you would flee from a poisonous snake. If you play with that snake, it will bite you and you will die.
Remember Joseph who was warned in a dream to take Mary and the child and flee to Egypt, for there are those that want to kill the Child. Joseph had to literally take Mary and the child and flee.
So too you have to physically flee from youthful lusts, get away from that environment that is tempting you.
If you want to enter marriage you must seek God’s face, for a wrong choice in this matter could ruin your whole life.
God might have intended great things for you but a wife not from God might spoil it all as she drags you down in stead of building you up.
Job made a covenant with his eyes not to look upon a woman, and God testified about Job’s uprightness.
When the Lord says “flee”, He doesn’t mean in some mystical way, but that you must flee physically from sin.
John 1
13 Which were born, not of blood, nor of the will of the flesh, nor of the will of man, but of God.
There are those born because of natural desires; but then there are also those born because God brought them together.
Was your marriage born of God, where things don’t go according to your feelings but according to the will of God?
How then will one get married? It is possible to seek God’s will in the matter, so that He reveals to you His will to whom you should get married.
For those who say there are many ways to get married, they are correct. The world has many ways, but God only has one way and it is as revealed in the Bible. Seek God’s will in the matter and not your own wisdom and feelings.
If you want to be in Heaven and sit at the tables with Abraham, Isaac and Jacob, how will it be possible if you don’t live the way they lived?